There Is No Need to Hurry

I am an impatient person. I jam too much into my day and race to get everything done. This creates stress and lowers both my well-being and my effectiveness. It also makes me crabby. But I can rebalance myself when I pause to remember that my higher self runs at a constant, gentle pace beneath my frenzy.

The higher self runs on its own time. It sets a slower pace, or at least a pace that can handle speed with ease. When inhabiting my higher self, I operate in a natural rhythm that does not seem to move at all. It occupies a stillness that holds the potential for any movement but from a calm center.

The pressure we feel when we operate in a fluster comes from our ego self. The ego is good at managing the details of life but can be over-invested in schedules and outcomes, often to the detriment of both. Even if we are driving an injured child to the hospital, we will be more alert and effective if we are connected to the inherent rhythm of our higher self.

The ego self has a file cabinet made of chipboard that keeps the world safely organized and at a distance. It stores the memories of what has worked in the past and these become the patterns we default to over and over. The file cabinet allows for quick skimming but it is flimsy and artificial.

When we skim the surface of our experience, like skimming a paragraph to find the “important” words, we step further into the world of pre-defined patterns and old habits. Breathlessly rushing about keeps things familiar but stale. When we pause and sink into the more textured reality just below the surface, the patterns give way to the aliveness of life as it actually is.

The move from ego self to higher self is a shift in consciousness that lets us fall into a different quality of being. Every time we pause our frantic patterns of the moment, we set the conditions for this shift.

To me, the pace of the higher self feels more like an inner posture than speed of movement. Even when acting quickly, there is no need to hurry on the inside. The ego self is incredibly talented at making things seem urgent. Putting the brakes on my mental and emotional whirlwind disrupts the ego’s false urgency and opens the door to the simple, steady pace I long for.

Sometimes, just remembering your higher self can be enough to allow you to settle. However, if you are already in a full-blown frazzle, try to calm your ego by reassuring it. Thank your ego for working to protect you. Explain that you understand the warning signals it is sending and that you have things under control. Then, take a breath or two and focus on slowing your internal state and your external actions.

Stop. Step outside the stream of thoughts and emotions that are propelling you. Observe what is happening inside. Speak into the weight of your body that it is okay to slow down; to

read slowly;

write slowly;

speak slowly;

listen slowly;

think slowly;

Perhaps not every time, but often enough to allow the pace of your higher self to become your default. Even now, as you read these suggestions, do some seem difficult? Which ones cause your ego to react, asking you to skim quickly past them?

Moving slowly allows more of reality to seep in and replace the old patterns of the file cabinet with fresh responses to your immediate experience. Let this peaceful inner pace emanate from you as you meet the world and see what other changes arise as well.

Nothing above disregards the demands of life or says that keeping appointments, meeting deadlines, or getting to the airport are unimportant. But the state of consciousness we occupy while doing these things is also important. In a frenzied ego state, we miss a lot of information, stress those around us and waste emotional energy. Working at the actual pace of our true nature aligns us with ourselves and the world.

Here is a challenge for you (which I will take as well): the next time you receive an email, read it from the perspective of your higher self. Read each word slowly. See if you can glean deeper information that was in the author’s mind, the intent beneath the surface. Write your reply from the same place.

Reflect on how this feels. If it seems better, make slowing down a deeper part of your practice.

Photo by Pierre Bamin on Unsplash

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *